Let’s talk about infertility
This week is National Infertility Awareness Week. Although infertility affects 1 in 6 people around the world (WHO, 2023), there can be much stigma and silent suffering with infertility. If you’re in the thick of struggling with infertility or have gone through it at some point in your life, this is probably not news to you. However, for those personally unaffected by infertility, there can often be a lack of awareness and understanding of what it is and how to support your loved ones struggling with it. Below are some tips to help friends and family who wish to help those impacted by infertility but are unsure of where to start:
Don’t be afraid to talk about it/ask about it: while infertility can be challenging to talk about, it can often feel worse when you ignore what’s going on or don’t ask about it. While you may be afraid to bring it up because you don’t want to upset your friend/family member, it is unlikely they forgot what they’re going through. Instead, ask when it’s just the two of you if they want to discuss it. Even if they decline, they will most likely appreciate it being acknowledged.
Allow them time to process baby news: If you or someone in your circle of friends/family is going to make a baby announcement, it can be helpful to give a private heads-up, especially in the form of a text message. While you may want to call or talk to your friend in person, this does not allow them the space to respond genuinely and freely, as they may feel they have to put on a “happy face.” A simple, heartfelt text with the news and acknowledgment that it may be difficult, with no pressure to respond, can go a long way.
Be wary of offering suggestions: although you may have the best of intentions, individuals dealing with infertility have heard it all, so much so that it’s commonplace for those struggling with it to list what they’ve heard – your cousin’s sister’s friend tried for years and then got pregnant as soon as they stopped worrying about it; X supplement is a miracle; and a standard “favorite” –just relax! Infertility is a medical diagnosis and often consists of many complicated factors. Those dealing with this challenging issue do not want or need suggestions and have probably heard and tried them already. They do want support and a listening ear when needed!
Although National Infertility Awareness Week is only for a brief period every April, it is helpful to remember these tips throughout the year. If you or someone you know is struggling with infertility, further therapeutic support is available.